Going Onwards with Lots of Self Love.

Hi guys, hope you all are well. Thought I would update as I haven’t written in such a long time!

There is a time in everyone’s lives, I think, where we experience for the first time, a relationship that changes us. This could be romantic, sexual, a friendship or any kind of relationship, but what we know for sure, is that this person makes us feel emotions and think thoughts that we could never fathom before. And to be honest, in the heat of the storm, we crave this feeling.

Sometimes though, this person leaves – willingly or not – and it’s like a drought after the summer oasis. We feel dry, empty and suddenly we feel lost, even though we know we have managed just fine without this person, so how come this is different? Then you can sometimes make excuses for that person, blaming yourself and this sadly causes you a lot of hurt, which the other person can feel too, or maybe they feel nothing at all, but a new lease of life, leaving you behind.

The most important thing to consider and care about is spelled in three letters: YOU. No matter what happened, no matter how upset and distraught your feel, you must care and look after yourself. Because if you won’t, who will? Unfortunately, someone can’t always be there to mop up your weepy tissues or replay Bridget Jones for the 30^th time in one day, but that’s not always a bad thing. In this process, we will learn to love and value ourselves in a way we could never expect, where we stop making excuses for other people all the time and realize what we need in life is just as important as everyone else’s. Yes, we should be kind to others, this is desperately important, but we are not kind if we are not kind to ourselves.

So, it’s ok to be upset, for a day, month or more than that, because it shows that we have heart and that we care deeply. You can listen to as much Rihanna as you want and watch as many cheesy movies as you possibly can, if that what makes you feel better. Like Eleanor Roosevelt says: “No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent” (Referenced from Princess Diaries, of course). This burn will make your skin grow stronger, and if they don’t reciprocate your efforts or feelings, or try to understand what you are going though, they are not the right person for you. You can move on and upwards, and eventually, we can let go of the anger and the sadness and the guilt. Because we’ll be in a better place, and who knows, maybe we will find a relationship that helps you realize how great you actually are, instead of tearing you down.

Lots of love and take care,

Emma x