Time To Speak Honestly.
Hi you lovely lot! I hope you are all doing well and that you are enjoying having Pumpkin Spice lattes and kicking fallen leaves under your feet once again.
To be honest with you, I haven't written a blog recently because I don't really know what's going on in my own life, so I've felt like I don't have the right to give advice when I can't even take my own. So firstly I'd like to apologise if this post has a mixed message today. But then I guess everything in life isn't made of one pure emotion.
What I've noticed recently is how everyone isn't as together as you may think. We might look at social media, how people dress, what they talk about and think this is how they truly are, that every single thing they portray to the outer world is 100% true. Though we forget that actually, everyone is just as human as you are. Just because they seem happy and strong-willed doesn't mean they are always like that in all aspects of life, but it could be a shield to project an image onto the world around them, as if they are protecting their real emotions. For example, Bob from the pub might be loud and tipsy all the time because the alcohol helps him forget about his past, or that Ella from school might be seeing all these different people one after the other because she's afraid of being alone. Now I'm not saying that either of these coping mechanisms are right or wrong, but that sometimes these actions are used to help them cope with their own insecurities and thoughts going on inside.
Having a naturally anxious personality, I'm used to having all these worries and busy thoughts in my head, and that's always been strange for me to handle when it comes to communicating my feelings, as when I try to talk to people about it, it becomes more of a struggle to deal with because I'm socially awkward, and my most serious relationships have been with my dog and Harry Potter. Not even kidding.
Aside from that, I have always felt that I needed to keep this image of a chatty and sociable "me" to not only protect my intensely emotional side, but to help other people feel at ease; that they can talk to me about anything, and that I'll always be their friend. Because even though I might be used to feeling sad, there is no way in heck that I want any of my friends and family to feel that way, ever. I know it's not possible but I will do everything I can to help the ones I love in any way I am able.
So I guess the main point of this post is that it's okay to be honest about what you're feeling sometimes, even if you think that people don't care about it; not everyone will care, but the people who matter most definitely will - that's what's important. If talking isn't the best for you - which I totally understand, I'm the same too - distracting your thoughts can be a good idea, like listening to music or watching The IT Crowd on repeat, to help ease your mind and crack a few laughs here and then.
I'm sending you all my love and wishing you all the very best.
Love,
Em x
To be honest with you, I haven't written a blog recently because I don't really know what's going on in my own life, so I've felt like I don't have the right to give advice when I can't even take my own. So firstly I'd like to apologise if this post has a mixed message today. But then I guess everything in life isn't made of one pure emotion.
What I've noticed recently is how everyone isn't as together as you may think. We might look at social media, how people dress, what they talk about and think this is how they truly are, that every single thing they portray to the outer world is 100% true. Though we forget that actually, everyone is just as human as you are. Just because they seem happy and strong-willed doesn't mean they are always like that in all aspects of life, but it could be a shield to project an image onto the world around them, as if they are protecting their real emotions. For example, Bob from the pub might be loud and tipsy all the time because the alcohol helps him forget about his past, or that Ella from school might be seeing all these different people one after the other because she's afraid of being alone. Now I'm not saying that either of these coping mechanisms are right or wrong, but that sometimes these actions are used to help them cope with their own insecurities and thoughts going on inside.
Having a naturally anxious personality, I'm used to having all these worries and busy thoughts in my head, and that's always been strange for me to handle when it comes to communicating my feelings, as when I try to talk to people about it, it becomes more of a struggle to deal with because I'm socially awkward, and my most serious relationships have been with my dog and Harry Potter. Not even kidding.
Aside from that, I have always felt that I needed to keep this image of a chatty and sociable "me" to not only protect my intensely emotional side, but to help other people feel at ease; that they can talk to me about anything, and that I'll always be their friend. Because even though I might be used to feeling sad, there is no way in heck that I want any of my friends and family to feel that way, ever. I know it's not possible but I will do everything I can to help the ones I love in any way I am able.
So I guess the main point of this post is that it's okay to be honest about what you're feeling sometimes, even if you think that people don't care about it; not everyone will care, but the people who matter most definitely will - that's what's important. If talking isn't the best for you - which I totally understand, I'm the same too - distracting your thoughts can be a good idea, like listening to music or watching The IT Crowd on repeat, to help ease your mind and crack a few laughs here and then.
I'm sending you all my love and wishing you all the very best.
Love,
Em x
Comments
Post a Comment